Ultimate Oral Sex Guide For Men

Some women really hate receiving oral sex… almost as much as you men enjoy receiving it. You might like nothing more than a woman wrapping her wet mouth around your cock, but for some women the idea of a man putting his head between her thighs to lap away at her pussy is a turn off.
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The main reason for this is that they have had oral sex before… but it was bad oral sex. No, in fact, many of the women I have spoken to about it have said it was terrible. A shocking amount of men get it wrong, and even reading erotic stories shows you how wrong some people get it.

Here on the Escort Norway blog we’ve decided to put together this guide to show exactly what it is that people get wrong when it comes to cunnilingus, and what it is you should be doing instead.

Common mistakes

There are plenty of common mistakes that people make when it comes to oral sex. The assumption is that, if you lick their clit like it contains the last drop of water you need to survive and thrust as many fingers as you can inside their pussy as quickly as possible, they will scream in orgasm.

However, women are not gloves to wear or ice creams that you have eat immediately. In fact, trying to fist a woman without her permission will probably get you a well-deserved punch in the face. So why do people do this?

For many, it is simply the fact that they don’t understand how the body works. They hope that with enthusiasm and lots of friction, they’ll get their partner to orgasm and that will be that. No more effort needed. They can simply skip the long and tiresome foreplay by giving her a quick orgasm in a minute and then get on to the actual fun sex.

However, the blame isn’t entirely on them. It is also on the many erotic stories that show that bringing a woman to orgasm is very simple. How many can you think of that talk about the woman crying out the man’s name as he sticks his tongue into her pussy? Honestly, putting your tongue inside doesn’t make a difference because you won’t get it in far enough to reach that sweet spot.

Every woman is different

So how do you actually give amazing oral sex to a woman, if simply sticking your arm in her to wear her like a puppet or licking at her clit like it’s a gob stopper doesn’t work?

The first thing you need to remember is that every woman is different, just as every man is different. When it comes to oral sex, some men will get off on the woman choking on his cock as she deepthroats him, while some prefer a lot of attention given to the head while her hands work the shaft.

It is the same for women. Gently sucking on her clit might be all that she needs, while others may want a little more attention and a finger in their pussy rubbing at their g-spot.

The best way to find out what she likes? Ask her. Yes, really. We know that talking about sex can be tough, but if you want to get it right you need to man up and grow some balls. You might think they will look down on you, but by checking exactly what it is they like in the bedroom they can tell you – and so you are much more likely to get it right.
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Take your time

When you compare the time it takes for men to orgasm to the time it takes for women, there are huge gaps. Men, by comparison, don’t need as long, while women need a lot longer to get to that precious orgasm.

What can you learn from this? Well, if you want her to orgasm through oral sex, don’t spend a minute down there and come back up with a grin on your face as though you are proud of what you’ve done while she looks at you confused.

Instead, think about how long you would want her to give you a blowjob. You wouldn’t want her to suck for a minute and then stop. You’d want her to give some proper attention to your dick, so do the same for her.

That doesn’t mean that you can’t change what you are doing down there if what you are trying isn’t working. You can, but don’t lick her clit a few times and expect her hands to clench in your hair as she orgasms. It will take longer, so give her that time.

Use your tongue wisely

Far too often I hear people talking about what they do with their tongue during oral sex and find myself shaking my head. Some believe that spelling out things on their clit with the tip of your tongue is a guaranteed way to get her to orgasm.

Well, in reality you might not want to touch her clit directly. There are so many nerve endings in the clit that too much attention can actually be painful. That means that taking it into your mouth and sucking on it could cause her discomfort.

Instead, you should aim to use the flat of your tongue on the outer labia to get her going, and gently rub your tongue along the clit hood when she wants more. This will make her start to moan and groan in no time, especially if you combine it with all of the other tips given above.

Do you enjoy giving oral sex, or are you a woman who loves receiving it? You can tell us all about it by visiting the Escort Wales forum, or by leaving a comment in the box below. Have you got some better tips to share with others? Share them with us.

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Lara Mills

Lara Mills is a writer who has four years of sex industry expertise behind her. Since she entered the adult industry, she has worked on the Escort Advertising forums, before moving into her current role three years ago.

Since then she has gained a fine reputation with her blogs on sex advice, sexual health and amusing news stories from around the globe. She is also a campaigner for the rights of sex workers from all over the world.

In her spare time, Lara keeps herself active by going running, and is something of a film buff. She also loves to go travelling.
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