How Swansea Escorts Take The Lead During Sex!

Domination is sexy. Domination is fun. You get to level the sexual playing field and take control of your own erotic experience – what’s not to like about that?

It can be hard, however, for women to imagine themselves as a whip-wielding dominatrix. The thought of inflicting pain or being aggressive to a partner can also be uncomfortable and terrifying. And guess what? That’s totally normal!

Taking the lead is more than just leather cat suits and spanking; it’s about striking a balance between being aggressive and being you. Get the balance right, and you’ll love every second of the experience. Being in control will do wonders for you self-confidence, your sexual satisfaction, and your desire to be in control of your own sexuality will drive your partner wild. So here are my suggestions on ways to take the lead in the bedroom:

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1. Don’t wait for him to pleasure you – take the lead

Nobody knows what turns you on, better than you do. So start playing with yourself; during foreplay, during oral, during penetration…it’s up to you. When you are both working on your orgasm from different angles, you know you’re going to have a good time.

If you’re uncomfortable at the thought of touching yourself while your partner is watching, why not wait until he’s giving you oral. He’ll be distracted below, which gives you the opportunity to stroke and caress your breasts, thighs, neck, and so forth.

2. Show him how it’s done

This plays in to the point above – but don’t be afraid to use your hands on yourself. Caress your own body and show him exactly where you like to be touched, kissed, nibbled and so on. Everyone is different, with different hotspots, so instead of trying to explain what it is you like; show him. Rub yourself and enjoy it out loud…he’ll soon follow!

3. You know what works for you

We all enjoy different sensations and techniques, and when it comes to breasts and nipples there are certain things we like and don’t like. Because so many of us have completely contrary experiences, I think a lot of men tend to shy away from this area. There doesn’t seem to be any concrete advice for men either. I once read an article that said: “Never pinch or rub a woman’s nipples, they are incredibly sensitive.” and a few sentences down reminded its readers not to “… forget to tease and nibble her nipples, they are a sensation center”. That’s enough to confuse anyone!

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For your partner to get it right, you need to know what you like. So the next time you masturbate, play around for yourself and figure out what hits the spot (and what your comfort level is). Do you like the sensation of your nipples being pinched? Or flicked? Or do you prefer slow, gentle strokes? Once you’ve figured it out, surprise your partner with a show-and-tell. If you’re feeling a little kinky, why not get on top and demonstrate what you love, from his angle. It’s super sexy.

4. Get creative

There are so many positions to try, and angles to play with. You can take inspiration from the karma sutra, or you can simply improvise. Whichever you decide, keep in mind that there’s no need to plan ahead and the position does not need to be executed with precision. It’s all about boosting your confidence and making you feel strong, powerful, and in-control. Position him how you want him to be, and lean in or away depending on the angle you’re trying to achieve (and what feels amazing). Watching you take the lead and rocking your way to orgasmic bliss is a sure way to turn your partner on.

5. Being comfortable is key

As with any sexual experience – don’t do anything that makes you feel uncomfortable. If you have something in mind, talk it out and work your way slowly up to it. There’s no point dressing up, using toys and trying daring positions if you’re nervous and massively out of your comfort zone. It’ll show.

Remember, this is about you having a good time and exploring yourself sexually. So do what you want and/or need to do to ensure that it’s an amazing experience for you. Keep your limits in mind, and communicate and share ideas with your partner. That way, both of you can benefit from this experience.

Swansea escorts

There is a lot to be made when working as a Swansea escort, and the ability to take the lead in a sexual way is vital for existing escorts and new Swansea escorts alike.

We certainly hope you found this guide useful!

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Martin Ward

Martin Ward is a well respected editor and writer with over five years experience in the adult industry. After stints in the Escort Advertising call centre and on the escort forum, he moved into the site editor position around three years ago.

Since then, he has specialised in articles on the battle for equal rights for sex workers, sexual health, as well as bringing the readers fun news from around the world. He also has a major interest in LGBT rights, and is an active campaigner in this field.

When he isn't fighting the good fight, he enjoys spending time with his girlfriend, and young daughter. He also enjoys reading and taking long walks.
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