Stop Being Selfish In Bed

’tis the season to be jolly, when we are supposed to take pleasure from the little things in life and be thankful for what we have… so why are people complaining about their sex lives?
Unhappy couple

At Christmas we are reminded of just how commercial the season has become. No longer does the phrase “it’s the thought that counts” matter, and people are eagerly awaiting to open whatever presents they have… and it doesn’t stop outside of the bedroom. We’ve all been guilty of it at some point – we want to stop having to go through the foreplay and skip straight to our pleasure.

Now is the time to stop being selfish in the bedroom, and here on the Escort Wales blog we look at what you need to do to change things. After all, it is better to give than to receive.


Yes, it can be really tedious and boring sometimes. You want to get straight to the main event and have your own orgasm, but your girlfriend needs a little warm up first. You try to speed things along but she keeps slowing it right back down. How do you get around this?

Try taking your foreplay somewhere new. Don’t just keep it in the same bedroom and the same routine that you always do, or you are bound to get bored and want to rush through things.

Couple in showerAsk your girlfriend to join you in the shower. You can rub soapy water all over each other’s’ bodies and get each other worked up that way. When it comes to oral sex, you can get down on your knees under the water and play with her, but don’t forget the shower head. On the right setting and at the right angle, the pulsing water from the shower head can help your partner achieve orgasm. Mix it up between your tongue and the water to get her begging you to finish her off.

Sex positions

It happens to every couple. You stop experimenting and simply stick to the same positions and routine in sex. You start to only want your own orgasm and become less focused on your partner, which is why trying a new sex position can make a huge difference.

Whether it is simply moving her leg into a different position or the both of you moving against a wall, make a change. Try something designed to give both of you pleasure. Even something as simple as putting a cushion under her bum when you are in missionary position and bringing her legs so they are over your shoulder can be a good change. Don’t be afraid to experiment and focus on getting her off before you get yourself off.

Are you selfish in bed or do you put all of the attention onto your partner? Let us know by commenting on this blog post or head over to the Escort Wales forum and leave your thoughts there for us.

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Lara Mills

Lara Mills is a writer who has four years of sex industry expertise behind her. Since she entered the adult industry, she has worked on the Escort Advertising forums, before moving into her current role three years ago.

Since then she has gained a fine reputation with her blogs on sex advice, sexual health and amusing news stories from around the globe. She is also a campaigner for the rights of sex workers from all over the world.

In her spare time, Lara keeps herself active by going running, and is something of a film buff. She also loves to go travelling.
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