Is Sex Important To A Relationship?

Sex, for most people, is a natural part of their relationship. You get to know someone, you jump into bed together, and things progress from there.
Unhappy couple

However, after speaking to some girl friends in a bar last night, I’m starting to think that many relationships are missing the sex. Yet those that are missing it don’t seem to be missing out.

Is sex a vital part of a relationship, or can you still have a great relationship without sex?

Late night confessions

Women talk, and when we talk we will happily talk about anything. So when I asked a friend of mine last night how she was doing she went really quiet. Eventually she confessed that she is feeling guilty because her current boyfriend can’t give her an orgasm in bed, and she wants to leave him because of it.

From the reaction of the group, you would have thought she’d just confessed to murder.

Some said that they couldn’t believe something as small as an orgasm would make her want to leave this man, while others said that, if he can’t satisfy you in bed, what is wrong with looking elsewhere for someone who can?

I was sitting there listening to them argue and unsure what to say. I have been in that situation before, where a partner has been unable to get me to orgasm, and when we eventually broke up I was glad to no longer feel like I had to fake it to make him feel better about himself.

Yet I’ve also been in the position where we haven’t had sex that often and yet I still felt happy in the relationship. Can you still have a strong relationship without sex?

Why is sex important

There are a number of reasons why sex is an important part of a relationship. For a start, it is the ultimate intimate act you can do to show how much this person turns you on and how much you desire them.

Not only that, but having sex can bring you closer as a couple. You get to know your partner in a while new way, learning how they move during sex and what happens to their body when the orgasm. Sex also allows you to work away the stress of the day in the most fun way possible, and it is often the most effective method of de-stressing.

You are free to be who you are and can experiment with different things, if you have an accepting partner. Even if your partner isn’t that adventurous in bed, you can still try new ideas if you approach it in the right way.

If you are constantly having bad sex, or even no sex at all, you are said to be more likely to cheat on your current partner, as you will go seeking sexual satisfaction elsewhere. Even if you are having amazing sex, you might still want more than your partner simply cannot give you.
Dinner date

Relationship without sex

However, if you make sex the be all and end all of your relationship, you’re going to have a bad time.

Sex isn’t going to be the most important part of your relationship, though it is still something most people look for in it.

If you aren’t having sex in your relationship, it doesn’t make you odd. It could simply mean that you and your partner want to get to know each other better, or that the spark that once brought you together isn’t there anymore. You can do things to change this, by going on dates and trying things like erotic massages and foreplay games.

Those who are having sex and simply not enjoying it may need to look at the reason why they aren’t finding sex pleasurable. Is it just that they aren’t getting an orgasm from sex, or is there something else?

Whatever it is, you may need to simply man up. Sounds harsh, yes, but by toughening up and talking to your partner about the problems, you are more likely to find a solution – whether that is going elsewhere or working together to make things better. Don’t be afraid to talk about sex with your partner. It may feel scary, but by having those open and honest conversations you will bring your partner closer.

So is sex important to a relationship? I’d have to say that, for me, sex is a vital part. If things aren’t quite going the way I’d hoped, I can always talk to them about it. Do you agree? Do you have troubles talking to your partner about sex? You can give us your thoughts or even you tips on talking about sex by posting in the comment box below. If you would rather see what others are saying, you can head over to the Escort Wales forum and join in the discussion.

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Lara Mills

Lara Mills is a writer who has four years of sex industry expertise behind her. Since she entered the adult industry, she has worked on the Escort Advertising forums, before moving into her current role three years ago.

Since then she has gained a fine reputation with her blogs on sex advice, sexual health and amusing news stories from around the globe. She is also a campaigner for the rights of sex workers from all over the world.

In her spare time, Lara keeps herself active by going running, and is something of a film buff. She also loves to go travelling.
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