Is Orgasm Denial The New Trend?

Thanks to books like Fifty Shades of Grey, BDSM has become more popular. Not only are people more willing to try it in the bedroom to spice up their sex life, but they are also more likely to enjoy sex with a new partner who is into sexual bondage.
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Regardless of whether you are a fan of the books (and soon to be film) or not, the openness about the world of domination and submission means that acts previously thought of as taboo or strange are now quite normal and fun to do.

Lately, I have seen more and more articles and heard more of my girlfriends talking about orgasm denial, or erotic sexual denial, and how much they enjoy it. Is orgasm denial the latest trend in the bedroom?

What is orgasm denial?

As you might guess from the name, orgasm denial is where your orgasm is withheld from you, either by yourself or your partner. It can be done in many ways, such as getting you as close to the edge of possible before backing off, or by refusing to give you any genital stimulation at all.

One of the main reasons orgasm denial is used in the bedroom is to assert dominance over someone. With it you can control your partner, and get them to do whatever you want in the hope of getting an orgasm out of it. Having your orgasm denied can also be a huge turn on, as you get closer and closer and are then prevented from crossing that line.

If you are allowed to orgasm (which can depend on your experience, so make sure you discuss it with your mistress) the denial for so long can give you one of the biggest and strongest orgasms you’ve ever had. Your entire body can shake in the wake of it, and you will want it again and again.

Why is it so popular?

People are more willing to take their time in the bedroom. It is no longer a case of quickies ruling the roost, or getting your quick orgasm and then off you go. Now people want to have their orgasms denied to give them a bigger one at the end.

As said earlier, the control factor of this can make for some great sex games. It shows a lot of trust in your partner, which can help to strengthen your relationship. It also helps you both to get to know your bodies a little better, and just how to know where that thin line is between almost there and actually having an orgasm.
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Trying orgasm denial

If you have never tried it before and are interested in seeing just what it is like, something as simple as getting your partner to take breaks when giving you a blowjob or when you are having sex can be a great way to start. You will both get to know where you limits are, so that you can work around them.

Tie and tease is a popular form of erotic sexual denial. Whether you are tied to a chair, a bed, or just tied in the middle of room, your inability to move your limbs means you cannot finish yourself off when you partner leaves you longing for more. They want to hear you beg, and seeing you at their mercy can be a huge turn on for them.

Make sure you establish a safe word so they know if they have gone too far, as this will help to keep things feeling great for you both.

Have you ever tried orgasm denial? Tell us about your experiences by visiting the Escort Wales forum, or leave a comment below.

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Lara Mills

Lara Mills is a writer who has four years of sex industry expertise behind her. Since she entered the adult industry, she has worked on the Escort Advertising forums, before moving into her current role three years ago.

Since then she has gained a fine reputation with her blogs on sex advice, sexual health and amusing news stories from around the globe. She is also a campaigner for the rights of sex workers from all over the world.

In her spare time, Lara keeps herself active by going running, and is something of a film buff. She also loves to go travelling.
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