How Much And What Kind Of Sex Do Women Want?

We are obsessed with sex. We either want to watch people having it in porn and wank off over it, or we want to talk about the dirty things that people have been doing… hence why the world isn’t quite ready to give up the “David Cameron shagged a pig as part of a weird initiation” thing just yet.

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There are a number of questions we always see asked on websites. Things like “does size really matter?”, “how much sex should I be having?” and “what is the best sex?” are brought up a lot because we feel like we need to know the answers… because knowing the answers will then give us the chance to have some of the best sex of our lives.

Okay, so maybe not, but that doesn’t stop people from asking. Lately, we’ve been focused on just how much sex is normal and, while plenty of studies say that there is no such thing as normal sex, there are plenty that say we just aren’t getting enough. We take a look at what this could mean, and what we can do to get more sex.

How much sex?

The fertility app Kindara decided that they wanted to have a look at our libido, mainly because they were frustrated that our libido is in any way dictated by gender was frustrating them… and what better way to show that isn’t the case than by conducting a survey and asking people about their sex lives!

Well, the survey questioned around 500 women in total, aged between 18 and 65, to try and find out not only how often they are having sex, but also how often they want it and are simply not getting it. Usually when there isn’t much sex in a relationship, the blame is put on the woman. For whatever reason, the woman is always responsible for how much sex there is. Yes, there are some out there not getting as much sex as they want, but why are we women blamed for it?

The survey found that around 46.8% of the women surveyed were actually pretty happy with the amount of sex that they were having, and did not feel the need to massively adjust the numbers.

Of the women surveyed, they also discovered that 38.6% of women were actually reaching orgasm every single time that they had sex. Yes, even the quickies before work were resulting in orgasms for them. Okay, so we’d like that number to be a lot higher, but over a third of women have partners willing to go that extra mile to get them off, and for that we can only be happy.

Still not enough

And yet, even with nearly half of these 500 women declaring that they are getting enough sex, there are still a lot that feel their desires still aren’t being met. With 46.8% happy with the amount of sex they are having, it still leaves 53.2% who clearly weren’t satisfied. In fact, those women said that they wanted more sex than they were currently getting.

When Kindara wanted to know more about the sex these women wanted, 60.8% said that they felt sex three to five times a week was the perfect number, which might sound like a lot to us, but there were also 13% saying that they wanted sex more than six times a week!

Considering that, of the women surveyed, a huge 89.2% said that sex was important to them and their relationship satisfaction. That is a lot of people not getting the amount of sex that they desire.

However, there are also plenty of people out there who can attest that their partner does not want sex, and that whenever they try to initiate it, she will turn away and come out with an excuse, such as “I’m tired” or “I have a headache”, or even simply “not tonight”. So what are you supposed to do to try and give the woman in your life the sex that she wants and deserves?

Giving them the sex they want

It could be that you simply aren’t having the sex that they want to be having, and yet how do you know unless you talk to them about it? A lot of us get pretty tight-lipped when it comes to talking about sex because we hate doing it. Talking about sex is dirty, and we believe that the people we fuck should instantly know exactly what we want.

Since that isn’t how it works, we have some tips for the kind of sex that women want, and we have taken a look at the information provided by Pornhub on what women want. One of the most popular searches by women on the porn site is for lesbian porn, as well as “man eating pussy”. This tells us that women aren’t too bothered about cock. Sure, they might like it, but they want you to be skilled with your mouth, tongue, and hands too… so get practising!

Women also seem to be searching for things like “hard rough fuck” and “gangbang”, suggesting that they might like to lose control in the bedroom (but obviously in a safe way). While we might not enjoy the Fifty Shades books or movies, they have done wonders for the huge amount of sex toys you can get, meaning you can easily buy something that might be able to fulfil her fantasy of submission.

Of course, there is only really one way to know what she wants in the bedroom, and that is to ask her. Just man up and ask, and she might go into details about her favourite hot and horny fantasy that she wants to try out. You could also talk to the people on the Escort Wales forum and find out what their favourite fantasies are in the bedroom and try them out.

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Lara Mills

Lara Mills is a writer who has four years of sex industry expertise behind her. Since she entered the adult industry, she has worked on the Escort Advertising forums, before moving into her current role three years ago.

Since then she has gained a fine reputation with her blogs on sex advice, sexual health and amusing news stories from around the globe. She is also a campaigner for the rights of sex workers from all over the world.

In her spare time, Lara keeps herself active by going running, and is something of a film buff. She also loves to go travelling.
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