A Guide to No Strings Sex

The idea of no strings attached (NSA) sex has been growing more popular in recent years. The film industry has produced more and more movies and TV shows featuring couples who are in open relationships or have a fuck buddy. However, these films usually portray such relationships ending in disaster or they fall madly in love and live happily ever after. What about that in between; where people are able to casually hook up for NSA sex without getting their hearts broken?

We don’t fall in love with everyone we sleep with, but NSA relationships can end badly if you go in with unrealistic expectations. Communication is very important when it comes to any relationship, but it’s even more so with a NSA fling. The amount of time you have to get to know a person and figure out what they want is limited, so communication will ensure you are both on the same page and that there’ll be no bad blood.

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Finding a NSA partner

Don’t try to fool yourself into thinking that you can have casual sex if you already have feelings for someone. Attempting to use your NSA sex as a way of developing a deeper and potentially long term relationship will only end in tears. If both of you go into this with the expectation that it will be nothing more than sex; it should remain this way. Changing the end goal is not only unfair to your partner, but to yourself as well. Furthermore, it could potentially sour what was initially good fun. So, if you’re hoping that an actual relationship could develop, just stop. The sex and brief closeness will never be worth the heartache that could follow. The most important rule of all is that a NSA relationship is about sex, great sex, exciting sex and nothing else. Of course, be friendly and have fun, but the whole point of this arrangement is to be casual and not spend every waking hour thinking about it.

Asking someone for NSA sex

This is a subject that is hard to broach and can be embarrassing for both parties. Being cautious when asking the question is important. If you’re too blunt and have misread a situation, not only are you going to look like a massive jerk, you are sure to burn some bridges and offend. While the foundation of the relationship is sex, there are very few who would want to be blatantly asked if they fancy a quickie in the toilet. Our suggestion? Why not start with a sexual discussion – if your potential partner does not respond or seems uncomfortable, move on. If you find someone who is able to discuss the idea of sex like an open-minded adult, not only have you found someone who is comfortable with the idea but you’ll both be prepared for what to expect from the relationship once it starts.

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How to maintain a NSA relationship

You have to remember that this relationship is all about sex, and so it is pointless reading too much into the actions of your partner. This is true in any relationship, but is even more important when it comes to a NSA relationship. When you begin to over analyse their body language, texts and things they’ve said – you begin to spend more time than you should thinking about them. This can lead to confusion over your feelings and intentions. If you are having fun and enjoying the sex, that’s all that matters. As soon as you get bored, or feel uncomfortable it is time to move on. If you’re honest (but not blunt) about the reasons behind ending the fling, both of you are likely to end on good terms and you can both move on.

This leads on to the next point, do not ask your partner out on a date – this includes lunch, drinks or a walk in the park. You may see this as being courteous or friendly, but what you are actually doing is sending out mixed signals. This can cause all kinds of problems and could potentially ruin your fling. Remember, this is a NSA relationship and both of you agreed to keep it this way. There is always a chance that feelings could develop, however you should be able to avoid that issue through keeping it casual (unless you choose not to) and therefore continue to enjoy wonderful and easily available sex.

As mentioned above, there is always the chance of developing feelings. If you do begin to have feelings for someone during your NSA fling, the best thing that you can do is be honest with them. You need to be very clear about your feelings and expectations; if you’re not comfortable with something then it is your responsibility to let your partner know. Most people will respect your honesty, and even if they do not react in the way you had hoped for, you are both on the same page and can move on.

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In a nutshell, a NSA fling is a way to get sex easily without the complications that a normal relationship presents. You have to keep in mind your intentions and stick to them to ensure you have a great time and get the most out of the experience. If you go into this without thinking, you only increase your chances of getting hurt. If you are looking for advice on NSA sex, or need help finding a partner – why not get in contact with an escort in Swansea? These ladies have plenty of experience when it comes to NSA flings and are happy to share advice and provide help in any way they can.

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Martin Ward

Martin Ward is a well respected editor and writer with over five years experience in the adult industry. After stints in the Escort Advertising call centre and on the escort forum, he moved into the site editor position around three years ago.

Since then, he has specialised in articles on the battle for equal rights for sex workers, sexual health, as well as bringing the readers fun news from around the world. He also has a major interest in LGBT rights, and is an active campaigner in this field.

When he isn't fighting the good fight, he enjoys spending time with his girlfriend, and young daughter. He also enjoys reading and taking long walks.
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