Oral sex is something that a lot of women don’t want to talk about. For some reason, they believe that it isn’t for them, that they don’t enjoy it, and they have other things they’d like to do instead in the bedroom.
For those men among you who adore giving oral sex and enjoy nothing better than having your head between her thighs, it can be hard to hear this. It can be even more difficult to discuss your love for oral when she doesn’t want to talk about it.
So what can you do to convince your partner that oral sex can be amazing? Read our how to guide to help you give mind blowing oral sex.
One of the main reasons that women are so against oral sex is because of how up close and personal it is. As a woman, I can confirm that our minds think and worry about everything while you are down there.
We worry if we have missed any vital areas while shaving that might put you off. We also panic that, no matter how much we try, we will taste horrible to you and smell funny. No matter what you say, we will always worry about these things.
The best way to get around this? Get your partner to relax. It may sound simple, but a slow and sensual massage will really help your partner to relax and be at ease while you are touching their body.
Work their whole body to relieve the tension in each muscle before you move on. Slowly stroke their skin around their erogenous zones before you touch them properly to get them really horny and wet for you.
Marathon, not a sprint
One of the biggest mistakes people make with oral sex is rushing things. It doesn’t take as long for men to orgasm, while women take a lot more time to warm up and get closer to the edge. Remember – it is a marathon, not a sprint.
When you are starting to use your mouth on her, keep the movements slow and gentle. Your mouth and tongue should be relaxed and not rigid as you use them to stroke every inch of her pussy.
Soon she will be dripping wet for you, but even then keep it slow and steady until she begs for more. It will be even hotter for both of you then.
Variety is the spice of life
Combine firmer and softer strokes as things get more exciting to stop it becoming stale. However, you also need to listen and watch her to know when she wants you to keep doing what you are doing.
There is nothing more frustrating than having great oral sex and getting close to orgasm, only for your partner to suddenly change what they are doing. Even if you decide to speed up that can ruin it, as the entire rhythm changes.
If she begins to moan and groan, keep at it. Do not change unless she tells you to.
The clitoris is a very sensitive area of the body. Far too often, those giving oral sex to a woman dive straight for it and suck like it is a straw. Just in case you weren’t sure – it isn’t and straw and you should be more gentle.
You don’t need to suck all that hard to get her to have a clitoral orgasm. In fact, a simple and light stroke of the tongue or even wrapping your lips around it and releasing can be enough to get her off.
To give her a mind blowing oral orgasm, combine light clitoral stimulation with your fingers inside her. If you aren’t sure what to do, with one or two fingers inside her (palm up) bend them slowly and carefully towards you. You should feel a spongy texture towards the front of her body.
This is the g-spot. Rubbing your fingers on this spot while working her clitoris with your tongue will quickly bring her to orgasm, and if you learn to time it correctly you can give her a clitoral and g-spot orgasm at the same time. This is why oral sex is fantastic at giving women mind blowing orgasms.
What are you favourite oral sex techniques? Are you a lover or a hater? Share your thoughts by leaving a comment below or go to the Escort Wales forum and post your tips there.
Since then she has gained a fine reputation with her blogs on sex advice, sexual health and amusing news stories from around the globe. She is also a campaigner for the rights of sex workers from all over the world.
In her spare time, Lara keeps herself active by going running, and is something of a film buff. She also loves to go travelling.