Fuck Buddies – Are They a Good Idea?

Many times, people have alluded to the fact that you can sex with somebody with no strings attached. Justin Timberlake and Mila Kunis portrayed this scenario in the chick flick ‘Friends with Benefits’ with great finesse to show what happens when a couple agree that a little casual sex is all that’s on the cards for them.

A fuck buddy is a modern phenomenon, unheard of in previous generations, that’s not to say it didn’t go on, just that it wasn’t publicised. But can it really work? Have we evolved to the point where we can enjoy sex in a couple and enjoy only sex? At some point, men report a woman will begin to gain more feelings and vice versa. Here is our guide to have sex and only sex with a significant other without the messy emotions coming into play.

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Environment is Key

Want to have a relationship where only sex is being had? If you want to be a real swimmer, you only spend time in the swimming pool. Having a sex buddy and keeping it that way means that you have to make sure you concentrate on only spending time in the boudoir, the more you spend time together in places such as restaurants or enjoying date type brunches like couples you are opening yourselves both up to the possibility of romance, be careful to keep your friends with benefits zone firmly in the bedroom zone.

Keep Contact To A Minimum

Engaging in late night calls and text updates every few hours? You may find you’re upping her expectations for a relationship to blossom. Keep contact friendly but not too affectionate, never tell her anything that you can’t commit to in the future. Arrange the details and keep it to that, or you will find yourself walking down the path of commitment.

Wham Bam Thank you Maam

Wham, bam thank you maam may sound vulgar, but for many with a fuck buddy, this is exactly how it goes and for good reason. Intense cuddling in bed afterwards give way to oxytocin, the hormone that is released in a woman after sex to allow her to attach to a man. When you have finished, keep cuddling and chatting to a minimum and make your excuses to leave, this prevents both her and you from getting too emotionally involved, and reinforces the fact that both of you have agreed it is only casual sex.

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Be Firm From the Beginning

Cowards lie and say they are ready for relationships when really they aren’t, they just want to sleep around but be able to own somebody’s heart too, and they will usually find trouble. But having an open honest adult discussion about what are your boundaries is the best way to commence in a purely sexual relationship with someone. Be true from the start, say ‘I am looking just for fun right now.’ Make sure she or he knows where you stand, as early as possible.

Be Sure

Although some friends with benefit relationships have turned into actual relationships, the situation can also be detrimental to a blossoming relationship, you must be sure you are fine with the fact that they could be involved in a relationship with someone else or along the way meet someone more significant. Because once you’ve made it a sex only relationship, it can be hard for a man or woman to see you in a different light.

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Martin Ward

Martin Ward is a well respected editor and writer with over five years experience in the adult industry. After stints in the Escort Advertising call centre and on the escort forum, he moved into the site editor position around three years ago.

Since then, he has specialised in articles on the battle for equal rights for sex workers, sexual health, as well as bringing the readers fun news from around the world. He also has a major interest in LGBT rights, and is an active campaigner in this field.

When he isn't fighting the good fight, he enjoys spending time with his girlfriend, and young daughter. He also enjoys reading and taking long walks.
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